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Thursday, November 20, 2008
Do you have a favorite child?
I took Leah and Roman to the dentist today. (Can you believe my boy who lives on chocolate and sugar cereal has no cavities?) While I was there I picked up a "Parenting" magazine to scope out my competition (I'm in the process of submitting an article to them or a similar one) and came across an article about parenting and favoritism. The article basically acknowledged that all parents have a 'secret' favorite child. Apparently it can change from time to time depending on moods and circumstances (as in favoring a more helpful child over a particularly whiny one). Anyways, the article got me thinking about whether or not I have a 'favorite' child and if I did, wouldn't that completely mess up the rest of my kids if they knew about it? While the article hinted that there's nothing wrong with it, I'm not sure how I feel about that. Maybe as long as each kid gets their turn being The Favorite. Hmm.... What do you think? Do YOU have a favorite child?
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I dont know if I would call it having a "favorite" child. I seem to enjoy and love my child differently because they are each so different. I think that we can be proud of a certain child for an accomplishment that they do and have that particular one in the spotlight for that moment but I dont think it would be favortism. I am not sure if I am very fond of that word anyways. Very interesting post! It got me thinking.
That is a VERY interesting blog sis! I do not believe in favoring a child more than any other...sometimes i feel like i give alot more attention to "SHAWNSHINE" not only because he's the youngest but because hes also my LAST! When i catch myself, i feel really bad for the others, so i try to Evenly distribute my attention to every child...the most important thing though is that ALL my kids know i LOVE them with EVERYTHING!
Well said, Holly and Leslie! I'm still thinking about it myself. I definately think there are certain kids of mine (which will remain anonymous!) who are definately easier to deal with in temperament and then the one(s) who are seemingly a constant challenge. But I KNOW that doesn't mean one is more 'loved' than the other.
My children are each my favorite in ways, and I tell them you are my favorite Zachery in the whole wide world and so on for each child by name. Makes them feel special, and doesn't take away from their place in my heart because I have room for all of them.
I totally have a favorite son and a favorite daughter! Doesn't seem right does it? In reality we as mothers tend to feel like we could never love one child more than another let alone play favorites. Each one is different as Holly mentioned and each one is in the "spotlight" at different times and for different reasons. That being said I do see that children need to be treated (disciplined, rewarded, encouraged) differently according to their needs. So what works for one child doesn't necessarily work for another. It is a very fine line that separates individualizing and what others (including other children) see as favoritism. Yes I believe favoritism exists and no I don't condone it but sometimes its not as obvious to the parents as it is to the outsider looking in. Very interesting!
P.S. Do you have a favorite sister?
I can't stand either of my kids...
Ha ha ha. That was supposed to be funny. :)
I don't feel like one of the two boys is my favorite. I guess it's easy for me though, because I have one little boy who is so helpful and sweet to his little brother, and amazes me every day by saying something clever. Then when there's a baby... they can do no wrong. Plus, he's funny as all get out.
But, I do think that parents have favorites. I think because I was a "good" kid, that my parents tried really hard to make sure the other kids never got the idea that I would be a favorite just because I excelled in school and was well-behaved. So then you end up with a good kid who wonders what the heck she did so wrong not to win any type of special attention.
There you have it.
P.S. Did you just spell it DEFINATELY?
:)
With love,
Your Editor
Dear Editor,
Thanks to my liberating book (you know the one I'm referring to) I can tell you this without feeling guilty: YOU BUG!!! :) I don't spell-check before I send my posts out so I'll thank you in advance for not pointing out all of my spelling flaws. Oh, and tell Katie I still like her a lot!
Interesting topic! How do you think Hevenly Father or Heavenly Mother would answer this one???
I actually DID think about that, Mom and here's a scripture: 1 Nephi 17:35 "Behold, the Lord esteemeth all flesh in one; he who is righteous if favored of God..." So I think that, like us, HF and HM love ALL of their children the same, but I do believe we-- also like Them--'favor' the ones who are most obedient, helpful, easy-going. "Favor" meaning give more freedom, priveledges, trust, etc.
I actually DID think about that, Mom and here's a scripture: 1 Nephi 17:35 "Behold, the Lord esteemeth all flesh in one; he who is righteous if favored of God..." So I think that, like us, HF and HM love ALL of their children the same, but I do believe we-- also like Them--'favor' the ones who are most obedient, helpful, easy-going. "Favor" meaning give more freedom, priveledges, trust, etc.
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